Love yourself

"For most people their true self remains definitely and deeply hidden. How can one love something if one doesn't know it, if it is never loved by others. Many intelligent people live without any inkling of the true self, perhaps in love with their idealized, conforming, false self -- unless a depression points to what they have lost, or a psychosis confronts them harshly with their real self, they are helplessly left with as a stranger."
--Alice Miller, the drama of the intelligent child. Translated from Dutch.